It is good that there is someone to talk to as even though I come from a large family no one wants to talk about it except probably my mother and I don't like to burden her with all of this. If she asks, and she does, I tell her a little but not too much.
Some books I have found useful:
Managing pain before it manages you. M.A.Caudill, The Gilford Press.
The Pain Survival Guide: How to Reclaim Your Life. D.C. Turk & W. Frits, American Psychological Association.